No on CA’s Prop 8 & An Apology to SF Mayor Newsom

First, an apology: Gavin Newsom is not an idiot, and I am sorry to have called him one. When I complained about his videotaped comment that gay marriage would happen in California “whether you like it or not,” which the Yes on Proposition 8 forces used in ads to convince people not to support marriage equality, my reaction was to become incensed.

I wasn’t alone: Andrew Sullivan at The Atlantic offers views from a reader:

My husband and I were watching TV when the Yes on Prop 8 commercial aired, with Gavin Newsom arrogantly proclaiming, “its gonna happen, whether you like it or not.” My husband hates Newsom. And he’s not wild about the idea of same-sex marriage. I also don’t like Newsom, but I’m pro same-sex marriage. Thankfully, we were watching the commercial at the same time.

The Newsom ad was a cringe-inducing moment for both of us. I knew it had the potential to put my husband, and others like him, over the edge, and my gut began to churn.

…When his anger subsided, I told him I was concerned that his disdain for Newsom would influence his vote, and I proceeded to list all of the reasons why Prop-8 was wrong and why it should be defeated. He didn’t say much, so I didn’t push the subject harder. Two days later the subject came up again and my husband said he knew I was right and he was going to vote No on Prop-8.

I’m writing to tell you this, because I believe that if my husband had not had the opportunity to talk through the issue with me, he would have cast a Yes vote in November. And I hope I can encourage other families to talk openly about the issue, because it could very well make a difference.

Indeed it could. But in fairness to Mayor Newsom, I received a call from a member of his staff today, who directed me to the video of the entire speech, one given May 15, 2008, right after the California Supreme Court ruled that banning same-sex marriage was unconstitutional. Yes, the mayor made that cringe-inducing statement, but the context of the speech as a whole was quite different. Newsom underscored the need to work hard for justice because the fight was not over.

Was Newsom over-the-top with that soundbite? Yes. But remember, that day was one of celebration. Sometimes over-the-top happens, and again, the snippet was not representative of his entire speech. Given how demonstrably hard he has worked for years on this issue, and how hard he has been working before and after that unfortunate right-wing ad appeared, he’s earned a pass in my opinion.

Let’s not be distracted by the chicanery of the pro-hate side. Instead we must focus on the battle: Prop 8 must lose so justice and equality can win. No on Proposition 8 is the only decent, humane, compassionate choice. Lives depend on this measure’s defeat. Please, if you know Californians even thinking about voting yes, talk to them. Calmly enumerate the reasons why Prop 8 is un-American and unfair. And remind them of the dangers of relying on soundbites in ads for discovering truth.

By the by, my decision to boycott California if Prop 8 wins stands. San Francisco, however, may get a pass.

via The Newsom Effect

Advertisements

3 responses to “No on CA’s Prop 8 & An Apology to SF Mayor Newsom

  1. prop8discussion

    thanks for this post.

    Marriage is our culture’s ultimate expression of equality–it takes one man and one woman to create a family. Even if a marriage can’t have children or choose not to have children the definition of their relationship expresses this equality.

    One could see a lesbian union as a marginalization of men, or a homosexual union as a marginalization of women.

    I don’t believe government should sanction the marginalization of any parent. And even though some families can’t have children, or choose not to have children, you can’t separate the child-issue from the marriage issue.

    there is a great discussion here:

    http://prop8discussion.wordpress.com/2008/10/20/separate-but-equal/

    [offensive material removed]

  2. Your culture’s perhaps. My husband and I don’t approve of your culture. We do not agree with your ideas. And the US Supreme Court has already ruled: Separate but equal is NOT equal. Your proposal is discriminatory and anti-American. Families come in all kinds of configurations. No family is better than any other, and how DARE you wish to legislate your narrowminded view in a pluralistic society governed by secular law. And how DARE you choose to use secular law as a mechanism for stigmatizing and punishing fellow citizens, consigning them to second-class status, because they don’t follow your deity’s alleged dictates.

    As for your child notions, wake up pal: Gay people have kids too. You are a liar — this is about marginalizing gay families AND THEIR CHILDREN.

    Since this is my web site, I get to choose what appears here and what does not, so do not be surprised that the most offensive part of your comment has been excised. No, no, NO ON 8!

    Thanks for your web site plug; I have no interest in discussing anything with bigots, however well-intended they think they are.

  3. Um.

    1) So how do we go about “boycotting” California. I’m serious on this one.

    2) Does anyone else see the irony in Andrew Sullivan’s HUSBAND being against gay marriage? Does anyone see the oxymoron in “gay republican”?

    3) This is so tiring. A talent at debate does not equal intelligence, or at least sanity, it is once again clear.

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s